Each brain injury shares a common nucleus of similar injury symptoms. Some say the stages of healing and psychologically coming to terms with grief and change are so alike that rehabilitation professionals tend to match up these “newly injured,” or “high functioning adults.” Stop and remind yourself this:
“If you’ve seen one brain injury, then you’ve seen one brain injury.”
This truth is evidence that each of our stories must be told, heard, and felt – whether publicly or privately, and through any medium that you, your loved ones, caregivers, and any other soul touched by this topic choose to utilize so that our honest expressions can be actually understood and heard by the often indifferent majority of people. I will share some of my memories, reflections, some resources, repost others’ blogs, and do my best to tell no lie – even if it is only a lie because I could not find the right words to make it deeply honest. As Bruce Lee said, “It is easy for me to put on a show and be cocky…to show you some really fancy movement. But, to express myself honestly. To express yourself honestly, not lying to yourself. Now that, my friends, is very hard to do.”
Common to every brain injured patient, and often any caregivers, is the misunderstanding and fear surrounding traumatic brain injuries and concussions. Injured persons are desperate to feel understood, believed in, and treated as if they were the same old person inside. Yet even after the behavioral, emotional, cognitive, and physical changes present soon after the brain injury, people do not expect that what happens next will be so unexpected. People like a clear, linear path of recovery to a place the brain was, and will never will be again. Further, initial brain injuries can seem to be difficult for the patient in certain ways those around them come to recognize. Yet after initial injury, the brain sets in motion a cascade of neurophysiological responses to scramble metabolism, inflammation, blood and oxygen rates, and hormonal system alterations. Some patients do not go through much, but many change dramatically, seem to be progressing in ways that later decline, and new organic and trauma related emotional and erratic behavioral changes now accompany the injuries own organic, neuropsychological stages of brain in its survival mode, reprogramming and adapting as best as it can to mimic the previous levels of function a patient may have included as a character trait, or a skill known proudly by others.
education, experiences with medical providers, insurance, disability, psychosocial effects, and the expansive secondary impact upon caregivers, friends, occupational engagements, and more hold devastating consequence to survivors and their communities, too, for each person lost in our system is lost to us in our society.
It is a scientific puzzle, the brain, and the answer is simply that we do not know enough about what occurs when the brain is injured. To make this worse, each brain is different, each is injured differently, and each responds to the post-injury event differently. Plus, we all have lives that vary in socioeconomic group, geographic location, individual health status, and we vary as to the responsibilities and expectations within even community wide social commonalities. Yet, to make diagnosis neatly wrapped in separate packaging, medical trends consider similar categories of brain injury together, while even the severity of the injury is usually given a point system rating scale. Strokes, closed head injuries, open head injuries, Mild Traumatic Brain Injury, Moderate TBI, Severe TBI, diffuse axonal injuries, focal injuries, concussion, post concussion syndrome, mild neurocognitive disorder…these may appear categorically similar, but directing similarly looking injuries may not always guide appropriate treatment decisions. Should I suffer from a gun shot wound to the chest, legs, and stomach, will any hospital funnel you into a “catastrophic bodily injury” treatment center? Of course not! The patient with breast cancer, the student athlete with a torn ACL, the man with pancreatitis, and me and my bullet riddled torso in no way are eased by the efficiency of segregating patients in this way. The brain is everything else. It is too foreign to the brightest of us, and brain injury, the recovery, and the experience living after any type of brain injury is not generally “alike” enough to pursue efficiency through head versus body injury. Then there is one other problem. Even we who suffer a type of brain injury ourselves find it is not easy to explain or describe to others; it almost seems to be a topic deemed unspeakable to everyone around us who will just never empathically feel our innermost turmoil and sensations of the body, mood, and mind. How can we fix this?
Explaining to someone naive to the experiences survivors of brain injury have encountered is difficult; the social editor inside ourselves leaves us to often hold back from revealing honestly and thoroughly the truly raw and deeply held emotional and experiential intensities. Recovering and adjusting to life after brain injury is far too isolating enough as it is without feeling speechless when describing our innermost feelings and experiences. We are not so speechless to describe the experience of brain injury so much as we are wordless – it cannot ever be truly impressed in full spectrum in any typical fashion. For this reason, we must choose to speak from the honest feelings within us as if no audience is present to interpret and misunderstand; by any medium necessary we must transmit both the facts and the feelings related to traumas; we must engage in self-observation, speak through our somatic awareness, our body’s stress and tensions. By first willingly perceiving our own visceral sensations, we begin to develop the ways to describe our innermost recesses and trauma. Whether privately or publicly, by medium of speech, poem, story, art or other expression, we find honesty, break the walls of isolation, and come to regard ourselves and others with compassion. Gradually, as we rehabilitate and adapt to the changes of brain injury origin, working hard to repair the brain will naturally accompany the cultivation of our heart and the happiness, kindness, and joy of living that escapes too many of us after brain injury.
Survivors of any form of acquired and traumatic brain injury, their caregivers, their loved ones, and others affected or touched by the topic should post stories, share art, share jokes, use any coping skill or strategy to get the truth out. This will help remind us that we thought we lost our minds, but the impacts of the injury meant our minds also found a place to hide. It’s not time to hide now. It is time to just be.